My Children's burden - A question ?
MY CHILDREN’S BURDEN – A QUESTION
I am a mother of two teenage sons and one aspect of parenting that always puts me in dilemma is “Tuitions”. Tuitions are a necessary evil. My sons get up early in the morning, complete their bathroom routines in half sleep and thereafter at the horn of bus, climb it mechanically at the break of dawn.
I know every mother’s heart cries at this point but again mind overpowers……….they must go to the BEST SCHOOL, even if it is 1 hour distant from the home
Well I have a confession to make here……….there are good schools in the vicinity and in that case they don’t need to get up so early in the morning, but – but……….what to do ? The best school is in the other part of the city.
So 1 hour each of bus ride to and fro, the end result my sons get to reach back home by 4 in the evening. All haggard, lost and tired they monotonously drag their feet towards the room, throw their bags and place their hand on the remote. Lunch is then served to them in front of T.V, which they eat disinterestedly. I guess they hardly have any energy left to show interest. Food for them is no longer a matter of delight.
And now begins the agony part of the entire day. At 4:40 the cab to take them for tuition classes will arrive. Believe me, the time between 4 to 4:30 is the most difficult time for me. I have to use “sam, dam,dand,bhed” , the four measures advocated by Chankaya………….it is very difficult to pull them out and prepare for PART II of the day. When I think, keeping myself in my son’s shoes, I agree it is actually difficult for them.
The cab then takes them to tuition classes and it is almost dark when they are finally able to return back, with traffic jams always there to delay it further……….
So, I as a mother keep asking myself, is it neccesary for them to go for these tuition classes. The evening time when they should be playing, enjoying, laughing, running around me are spent in tuition classes. I agree they are gaining knowledge but with that tired body and already over stuffed mind, will they be able to grasp everything…………
It is almost 8:30 now , my sons are back but burdened with home works and revision assignments given both by school teacher and tuition teacher.
My !My God!!! Please help them, this is not fair, this is too much burden on them……….my heart cries out in pain but maintaining a composed look on my face, smilingly I tell them, “ beta, I have prepared your favorite chicken Manchurian and noodles”………………..”Mummy give it here, we got to finish our home work otherwise the school teacher will see us out of class “.
So they end up having dinner with left hand, not that they are “lefty” but because right hand is busy completing home work……….NO BETTER EXAMPLE OF MULTI TASKING
In matter of an hour yawning, they doze off to sleep amidst home work, to get up next dawn for school………..and I keep counting days for Sunday to come but it is also spent in extra classes, special projects etc etc……….
It is actually very difficult being school kids these days, life for them starts with school and tuition classes and ends up in home works. Is there a solution Is there any way to lighten the burden …………I know many mothers like me are desperately searching for a solution………..but in this rat race of giving our children the best, are we losing something? I don’t know, I am confused. My heart is sad and a mother’s sad heart means there is something not very right somewhere.
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